Must dos on a first date
20 December 2012, 13:28
Here are some great tips to make help sure that he calls after the first date.
Don’t make him work too hard
Whilst playing hard to get
looks suave and elegant, research says avoid it. Instead you should try
to be a little more open and approachable on a date. Firstly, because it’s clear you both fancy each other.
playing hard to get doesn’t actually work. It is thought that we find
people attractive when they are hard for everyone else to get, but love
the fact that they are easy for us to have.
Therefore on your date, try to say things like “I’ve been single for a while. It’s not that I haven’t had any offers, I just really liked you”.
Make them aware that you’re a catch, but remind them that they are the one who has caught you.
Talk about yourself
conversation aspect of a date is scary. The thought of awkward pauses
and ugly silences is enough to make anyone’s stomach churn like a
Don’t run off to a nunnery yet though ladies.
easy conversation to have is one that focuses on you. Talk about your
past, where you grew up or where you studied. Discussing your background
will not only point to values that are important to you, it will also
indicate to your date the potential you have to be a long-term partner.
talking about yourself too much though, instead once you’ve talked
about your hometown, ask them where they first lived and what they were
like growing up.
Dress to impress
Admittedly what you look like is important, but really it’s not what you wear
that counts, but how you wear it. When we decide who we fancy, body
language and tone of voice are key players. So don’t fret about how you
Make sure the clothes you choose fit, are comfortable and
practical. There are a few little tricks you can use that may help your dating success too though. If you want a second date leave your neck and your wrists bare.
Finally ladies, avoid wearing perfume. Smell is intrinsic to dating and they need a whiff of your natural scent.
Show them that you like them
all know body language is hugely important when dating, so use it to
show your date you like them. Not only will this make them feel great,
you’ll be able to judge quickly if they like you back. Women have 52
signals that tell men they’re keen, whilst guys have just 10.
So you want to give him a clear message, tilt your neck to the side, lock eyes with him and touch his forearm.
Or if you’re feeling really brave, touch his knee.
Although cheesy, you can also subtly lick your lips...
been wined, you’ve been dined and now it may be time for a cheeky
smooch. The first kiss is a deal maker or breaker for most so getting it
right is important. Remember to vary your speed.
Start off slowly, and then build pace before easing off again. This will keep them hooked and wanting more.
you don’t think the kiss is coming, why not go for a cocktail? Choose a
lime based drink for you and your date. Lime increases people’s
testosterone levels, which in turn boosts the sex drive.