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Is divorce genetic?

24 July 2012, 16:52 Meagan Karstens

Considering that marriages in her family don’t usually last, Meagan Karstens can’t help but wonder if she's doomed too.

A writer recently contacted me with an urgent request to find people who would be willing to chat about their families. A simple appeal, I thought, until I got to the gist of her email and realised that she was after something more unique.

Blended families. That is, not your classic one-dad-one-mom archetype.

Enter me. A child of divorce, where both parents remarried people who were also previously hitched, with kids of their own too.

My childhood wasn’t ideal. But, let’s be frank, whose really is, anyway?

Back to my point.

A few weeks ago, I hijacked the newsletter from Lili and shared my views on being single and the conflicting thoughts of enjoying this time, yet also realising that I am at the age where I probably should be settling down.

The response to my anxiety was amazingly overwhelming, and although the majority reckoned I should continue livin’ it up, some – friends in particular –linked my supposed commitment issues to my parents’ split.

And, maybe, they are right.

When it comes to men, I’ve come to realise that I don’t trust very easily. I also doubt both my and their level of emotional competence. The thoughts that plague me go something like this:

•    Am I good enough?
•    What if he leaves me?
•    What if he cheats on me?
•    Is this really love?

And the list goes on.

Considering the fact that marriages in my family don’t usually last, I can’t help but wonder if I’m doomed too.

Tell me what you think.

Is there such a thing as being “destined for divorce”? Am I the only one with relationship fears and hereditary hang-ups?  And, more importantly, how can I get over this nagging fear that is probably preventing me from giving any guy a fair chance in my life?

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