Affair proof your relationship
26 June 2013, 13:55
So we all know there is nothing new about double standards and when Kristen Stewart kisses whats-his-face she gets slated but he carries on with his life as normal.
Yes, I know he is married but I doubt the-girl-with-one-facial-expression had much power to seduce him.
He was also older by quite a bit and I’m sure he could stop it from happening if he wanted to.
Now the reason I’m writing is this…I’ve been pursued twice by married men to have an affair. The first time I was still young and stupid enough to agree but the second and most recent time is proving tough to say no to.
Feel free to judge (you probably will anyway) and say things like clearly I’m putting out signals that make these guys think I’m game but I’m not.
I’m just being my normal, friendly self and not behaving any differently with them than with anyone else (male or female).
It is obviously very flattering when someone finds you attractive and it’s a little boost to be flirted with but the moral and religious implications have stopped things from going further than flirting.
Yes, I know that it won’t end well and no, I don’t want to steal someone’s husband.
The question I have is this, in the first instance I've heard that he doesn’t get any sex at home and he is looking for it elsewhere.
In the second instance his wife takes out his SIM card every 3 months and throws it away to prevent him from getting the phone numbers of other women and she does not allow him to be active on any social networks including Facebook,Twitter or BBM.
In both instances that guys are really great, very intelligent, funny and friendly. They have good hearts and deserve great women.
Yes, I know I’m not being told the full story and I’m probably just being spun a lie but if it’s true…what then?
Surely these guys deserve some happiness. Yes, it goes against every woman’s equality movement about freedom of choice etc.
I know this…I do get it but I want to know from you, why on earth you would tempt fate? We all know that guys put a great deal of emphasis on the physical and trust aspect of the relationship so why would you allow this weakness to exist in your relationship?
Do you want your men to cheat?
None of us are perfect but there are small things you can do to ensure the success of your relationship.
If you have issues, that’s fine. All I ask is that you work to fix those issues/insecurities or let him go.
Most guys are willing to be patient and help you get the help you need but don’t just assume that loyalty/children is enough.
You are one of the reasons the term “ball and chain” exists and I don’t know about you but I wouldn’t want anyone to stay with me out of duty.
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